3/12/15
It’s
been a long time, but South Brunswick Public Library’s very own advice
columnist- Miss Telall- is finally back! She has two new entries, and is once
again, ready to tackle any problems which are thrown at her! If you’re having
any difficulties, be sure to email her at MissTelallSBPL@gmail.com, and check the SBPL blog to see if your question has
gotten a response. Remember, all entries are ANONYMOUS, as always!
Dear Miss Tellall,
I really want to get
ombre hair. I think it’ll look amazing on me, and my friends agree. However,
my parents do not tolerate this idea- they are worried that I may not like
the way my hair looks after the process, and demand to have it reverted back
to normal. How do I convince them to let me get the hair I want?
Sincerely,
Luscious
Locks
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Dear Luscious Locks,
Obviously,
before you get your hair dyed, you want to do your research about it. Decide
exactly which colors you’d like to dye your hair and figure out which
products you’re going to use. Educate yourself about the dangers of hair dye,
and follow the instructions on the bottle at all times! Alternatively, you
could choose to go to the salon. Try selecting a natural color, even a
lighter or darker shade of your natural hair color. For instance, if you have
dark brown hair, you might want to consider dirty blonde as your dye color.
If you really want to go for a “wild” look, consider for streaks in your
desired color. Wait a while to get your whole hair dyed that color. To
convince your parents, you’ve really got to know them. What makes them happy?
It’s not just a matter of being responsible, go the whole nine yards. Do your
chores without being reminded, help your siblings with their homework, and
prioritize getting good grades. If you show your parents that you’re giving
it your all and are a mature teenager, they will most likely not hesitate to
give you the things you want. Finally, ask your parents if you can dye your
hair. Tell them exactly what you are going to do to your hair, and why. Tell
them the dye is not permanent, and will wash out little by little. If you
want to completely change your hairstyle as well, tell them exactly how
you’ll cut it. Remember, honesty is the best policy! Take responsibility, and
acknowledge the fact that you are ready to do this, even if it doesn’t turn
out the way you expected it. Bring up the fact that you’d rather learn your
lesson and suffer the consequences than not dye your hair at all. Talk like
an adult; don’t whine or raise your voice easily. Decide your persuasion
techniques ahead of time. Additionally, you could offer to pay for the cost
of the dyes or the trip to the salon. It shows your parents that you’re
committed and responsible, and it helps your case that the money isn’t coming
entirely out of their wallet.
And that’s a wrap! Be
sure to keep up with Miss Telall for more advice, and if you’re having an
issue, share it with this columnist to receive the *perfect* solution.
~Miss Telall
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Dear Miss Telall,
This
is really getting on my nerves. I have been dealing with my overly attached
boyfriend for three WEEKS. The constant messaging, calling, and jealously
exclusive hang-outs distracts me from school, family, friends. It’s dragging
me from all the things I care about- the messaging, I mean. I really like my
boyfriend, but I don’t want to have to sacrifice all the other things that
make me happy, just to assure him I still like him. Should I break up with
him? How do I get out of this situation without losing a good friend?
Sincerely,
High
School Heart
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Dear High School
Heart,
In
a relationship, each party should make sure they respect the other’s goals in
life! Any relationship where a partner starts to pull you from other things
you care about is not currently healthy. Talk to your boyfriend, and explain
your stress. Make sure you deal with the situation without accusing him, or
looking upon your time together as troublesome. If your boyfriend can’t
respect your wish for a less restrictive relationship, than no one person is
worth changing yourself entirely for. Just remember to highlight your care
for one another- no love is lost if you have each other’s best interests at
heart. Your goal when facing the issue together should be to coordinate times
to have privately to yourselves, as well as to spend with friends and family.
Maybe you should try to introduce him to your group of friends, so that the
two of you can enjoy time in other peoples’ company together. On the other
hand, you could attend some kinds of extracurriculars (we have a rather large
selection at SBPL!) to spend with each other. Remember, overall, always
remain true to what you want, and don’t give up your happiness for
anyone else’s convenience.
Be
sure to understand what each of you wants from this relationship- compromise
is key!
~
Miss Telall
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